Blog entries - January 2011

Integrating The Best of Attachment and Differentiation Theories

Ellyn — Mon, 03 Jan 2011 15:40:02 +0100

Another year has arrived. I will continue to write blogs and give you thoughts and transcripts. One of my aims for this year is to encourage more involvement on this blog from you, my readers. My online training groups have been using their blogs in stimulating discussions. I’d like you to jump in and do the same. For this first blog of 2011, I’ll make this kind of interaction easy. I'm going to ask you to list attachment based and differentiation based interventions that you frequently use w...

Please List Attachment Based Interventions That You Use

Ellyn — Mon, 03 Jan 2011 15:35:17 +0100

Constancy of Contact. Find one time each week that the couple will get together without discussing relationship problems. This can be a walk, a coffee date or doing a shared activity. The time and place are agreed to ahead of time and neither partner needs to request it. This is designed to build reliability, accountability and time together without stress.

Please List Differentiation Based Interventions That You Use

Ellyn — Mon, 03 Jan 2011 15:30:25 +0100

Do not accept vague, incomplete or passive answers to your questions. Take time to ask each partner to reflect inward and answer your questions.